Monday, November 26, 2012

Stay at home mom

Being a mom is a challenge, being a stay at home mom is a never ending challenge, being a stay at home mom with a new born and a toddler (and a new puppy! Post about her will be coming soon) is like doing the Tough Mudder, most of the time! (If you don't know what a tough mudder is go here).

When I had Immanuel, my toddler (picture on the left), I worked a full time job and had my mother and brother in law watch him. I missed a few of his "firsts" if you know what I mean and wish I would've been the one to witness all his "firsts", although having an extra line of income was very useful.

Unfortunately I had to stop working due to having my newest baby as childcare would be way too expensive for both of the kids, so I am now a stay at home mom.

Switching from being a full time working mom to being a stay at home mom was a lot to adjust to. I had all the time in the world with my kids and house work was my job. I had to get in the groove of taking care of a new born and a toddler at the same time, getting used to doing chores everyday to make sure the house was at least in decent shape when my husband came home. Do you know what it's like to have the house clean one second and your toddler has his letters and blocks out all over the house the next? That's my life!

This is where practice makes perfect comes in. You do it over and over, improving each day and you will start to adapt to it. Getting used to staying at home all the time was also part of being a stay at home mom, at least for me. We only have one car and my husband uses it to go to and from work so when we do go to church on Wednesdays or even just the weekends really makes me feel good, it's like I get to see the world again!

After doing it for a about 2 months I realized it was a great job, getting to set my own schedule was the best part! I try to make a schedule for us three at home. Don't get me wrong I still have my lazy moments and have days where I don't want to do a thing, but that's the beauty of it! I CAN have lazy days and just make up for it later at night or the next day. I thank our Lord so much for giving me such a wonderful opportunity to be a stay at home mom. Stay at home moms deserve all the respect in the world and quite frankly I think we are meant to stay home and watch the children. If you reflect on the Proverbs 31's Virtuous Woman, you see she takes care of all her duties and works from home, she is a Christian wife. Proverbs 31:30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

Are you a work at home mom, stay at home mom, working mom? Do you like what you are doing? What would you like to do? Let me know what you think!

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

The Birth - God's way

The birth... What an amazing experience doing it God's way. I uploaded a video of my birth on my channel: Wifelifeasachristian for those who are interested in watching :)

On "THE" day I truly felt God holding me and giving me a sense of calmness and peace as I went into labor. My water broke in the morning at around 8 am and contractions started to kick in. My husband, mother in law, daughter, son and I went for a walk around the block a few times to help contractions progress.

I had timed them as we walked and they seemed to get more and more intense and closer together rather quickly. I was still talking and enjoying the laboring process (I know it sounds weird but I really did enjoy it!).

After a few times around our community we went back in the house and called my midwife Kathya to let her know how I was feeling, she had told us this period can take a few hours as I was still talking in between my contractions and didn't sound like I was progressing as fast as I thought.

I took her word and just kept doing what I was doing, relaxing and letting each contraction pass. I felt an ease using the birth ball to sway back and forth or just to lean on as my family was watching, awaiting and husband was comforting me whenever he could as he timed each contraction for me. I remember somewhere in between the contractions my midwife called her Assistant to come over because she lived closer to me.

My midwife's Assistant Margo arrived at about 11 am. She monitored me and watched me as my contractions were so close apart yet I was still talking in between them. I could tell she wasn't sure herself whether I was really progressing that fast or something else because I was smiling, joking and one time telling my husband "I'm tired.." (lol). Margo decided I should be checked to see how dilated I was.

We went up to our bedroom where my tub was set up and got checked, I was 6 cm. So, Margo told me I could get into the tub if I wanted to and called my midwife. I got into the tub with whatever sports bra I had on and honestly didn't care what I had on at that point, I just wanted to get into my warm tub.

After getting in I immediately felt relaxed. Margo told us I might have to go onto the toilet as being too relaxed in the water can slow down the progression and the position when sitting on the toilet can really help descend the baby. But she was wrong. About 20 minutes or less later I began to really feel the need to push, I positioned myself subconsciously (my body just knew) and started pushing myself. My mother in law and Margo asked if I was pushing, I nodded.  I felt a huge descent of the baby and grabbed Margo's hand.

Margo wanted to get ready for the birth but I couldn't let her hand go but she managed to switch out her hand for my husband's hand to hold. She got ready and told me I could give her a push and so I did. In a total of two pushes baby Israel was born at 11.59am!

Later my midwife Kathya arrived and while she settled to help Margo she commented "from 6 (cm) to having a baby in less than an hour!". Yes it was that fast! If it wasn't for the Father being there, I doubt the labor would've been so quick, fast enough for me to handle. He was able to make the labor process so fast and I am so grateful for His presence.

Many many thank yous to my loving husband Travon who was there throughout the pregnancy and birth, such a loving support he was for my pregnancy making sure I was taking all the vitamins I needed and so much more! I thank the Lord for providing me with the birth team to help with the birth, you can check out my midwife's website at Most of all I thank my wonderful family (mother in law, daughter, son, brother in law and brother). I hope this brings God as much glory as He deserves. I know without Him I could not have done it this way. I can now say I did it! Birth - God's way.